RELATIONSHIPS AND MANAGING EMOTION
Emotional Self Regulation and Emotional Self Management are INTERNAL (self) control factors. This internal 'self-control' combines with and extends to our EXTERNAL EQ/EI (Emotional Intelligence/Emotional Quotient) communication with our stakeholders.
EI/EQ extends to how we combine our self-management,
with our external management of relationships.
Our intra (internal) organisational relationships
and our inter (between/external)
organisational relationships.
Because leadership fundamentally requires us to become emotionally dispassionate in our reasoning, in some cases this emotional self regulation goes in the opposite direction.
Statistically,
over 40% of C level
executives exhibit
sociopathic traits.
Why is this statistic important?
While statistics vary, scientists and psychologists agree that emotions impact decision making. No emotion can lead to become apathetic, unresponsive, irresponsible, callous, and sadistic due to ignoring the causes and consequences of other people's pain. And so we do need to be able to perceive and feel the pain of others, which is called our empathy.
The trouble our biochemistry, is that the AMYGDALA, which is a tiny part of our subconscious regulatory system, tells us to fight or flight. This was useful when we had real monsters trying to eat us, but is quite unuseful, when the Amygdala is triggered because it thinks that something we are experiencing that is new, is something to be fearful of.
So what is
FEAR
DESCENDENT- CONTROLS YOU:
False Expectations Appearing Real
Feelings Echoing Assumed Results
Failure Expected And Received
Finding Excuses And Reasons
Forget Everything And Run
ASCENDENT-
YOU CONTROL:
Face Everything And Rise
Face Everything And Respond
Face Everything And Recover
Feeling Excited And Ready
For Everything A Reason
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